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Marriage

/  WHAT IS MARRIAGE?     

 

     Marriage is a spiritual, emotional, sexual, and civil bond between two consenting adults who hold a strong enough love and devotion for one another to desire to spend the rest of their lives together in civil and spiritual union. Committing to a loving and devoted life-long monogamous marriage can bring unprecedented strength and meaning to our lives.

 

/  THE NECESSITY

 

     From the day of our birth, we all desire to be loved unconditionally and to love completely. As we mature into adulthood, we often aspire to solidify this love in partnership through loving matrimony. There is nothing more special than a mutually-loving and trusting companionship which can offer meaningful security in our lives. Because marriage is the ultimate demonstration of a couple's love and commitment to one another, it is a unique opportunity for a happy, healthy, and rewarding existence in our adult years. That is why we believe marriage equality is critical to the psychological, physical, and spiritual health of LGBTQ people everywhere. We all deserve a chance at happiness through the bonds of marriage.

 

/  PREPARATION

 

    To help better prepare us for marriage, there are Ten Guidelines to Life-Long Relationship Success we should discuss with our partners and put into practice before  marriage. These ten key guidelines will help us through the difficult times and allow us to become even closer as arguments, disagreements, and hurt feelings will surely arise. This preparation can then allow marriage to become an immovable source of lasting joy, love, and peace in our lives.

 

/  MONOGAMY DISCUSSED

 

     We believe that monogamous sex between two consenting adults bonded in marriage is a special union and demonstrative of the deep love and devotion they share for one another. As advocates for LGBTQ monogamy, we understand that not all LGBTQ individuals feel the desire for a long-term monogamous relationship. But, as part of our FHIT Core Values, we strongly believe monogamy is an essential component to what makes marriage stable, meaningful, and long-lasting. When two people enter into a marriage vow, they are not only bonded lawfully, but sexually, spiritually, and emotionally. We believe that breaking that monogamous bond diminishes the strength of the relationship which can eventually lead toward heartache, jealousy, distrust, serious emotional distress, and often divorce/separation. 

     Today, there are major conflicting perspectives regarding same-sex marriage. Many of these perspectives attempt to re-invent marriage concerning sex. It is our belief that monogamy is not only a healthy practice but vital to the success and longevity of any deeply loving, spiritually sound, and thriving marriage (both LGBTQ and heterosexual). If you're currently in a relationship and thinking of taking the next step toward marriage, we believe monogamy is absolutely a necessity to the health and longevity of any marriage. 

     We desire to help support and encourage those LGBTQs searching for long-term monogamy and marriage. We hope to be an integral resource for the skills and knowledge necessary for a meaningful sexual and emotional monogamous bond that can last a lifetime. We genuinely believe that monogamy has the ability to add not only significant meaning but strength to our lives contributing to a lifetime of stability, romance, joy, and satisfaction.

/  SPIRITUAL CONNECTION

 

     There are many misconceptions surrounding the term "spirituality" today. It is a deep feeling of love, respect, and compassion for our fellow human-beings and the world in which we live (animals, plants, and the environment). When we develop this "spiritual connection" in alignment with our significant other, we can experience a greater capacity for long-term relationship success which can lead to a fulfilling, long-term marriage. It is vital we understand spirituality is not a "religious" belief, but an inner desire to enhance ourselves and the world around us through love, dignity, respect, and compassion for all life on earth.

 

/  CORE CHALLENGES

 

     But, let's face it, millions of LGBTQs have grown up with little or no affirming role-models to look to for inspiration and guidance toward relationship success. LGBTQs have been ignored, isolated, ridiculed, ostracized, abandoned, and abused (psychologically, physically, & spiritually) by their families, religions, local communities, and society in general throughout history.

     From childhood into adulthood, almost all LGBTQs are forced to somehow cope with this devastating void in affirming social-support. Common known coping mechanism include sex, drugs, alcohol, and materialism which can become severe addictions ultimately hindering one's chances of developing a sexually healthy, spiritually sound, and lovingly secure marriage. As an organization, we are working hard to offer free resources for LGBTQ relationship support, role-models, and social integration to help combat this harmful drag on LGBTQ relationship prosperity. Our resources are ultimately designed to increase the rates of LGBTQ relationship success in our local communities nationwide.

 

/  MARRIAGE EQUALITY

 

     We credit the union of two people, through marriage, as essential to the health of communities on the most basic level. When marriages are strengthened, we believe, so are communities. As advocates for LGBTQ marriage equality, we desire that every LGBTQ has the opportunity to participate in its sanctity for the health and vitality of LGBTQ populations everywhere. 

 

/  IN CONCLUSION

 

     While we are not a religious-based organization, we offer LGBTQ individuals a variety of spiritual, emotional, and health resources that can lead toward long-term marital success. Understanding that all LGBTQ couples may not desire marriage at this point in time, we still exist as an integral resource for LGBTQ relationship success and longevity. To do so, we believe it is critical that we develop emotionally, spiritually, and sexually mature lives.

     If marriage is desired, our goal is to help prepare those individuals for the benefits of marriage for a fulfilling, loving, meaningful, and monogamous life-long partnership. And, if children are desired, our purpose is to help develop important skills necessary to raise children in a loving and secure home amidst a heteronormative society.

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